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It's not a buffet, but...  

BareEssentialWNY 50M/51F  
8 posts
7/28/2021 7:52 pm
It's not a buffet, but...

Since we got into the LS like a decade and a half ago, we've tried and tried very hard to keep single guys included in our considerations.

Where we have paid access, we try to make sure anyone that contacts gets a reply, and we try to not just ghost anyone, though sometimes life gets in the way of this stuff and it might look like it. Even then, we usually pop a message when we get the chance to an effect like hey we didn't forget about you things have just been crazy.

We do this because no one likes being ghosted. It's rude. We don't like being rude.

BUT

Eventually, it simply must become the way it is, because for all the whining we see in single guys'<b> profiles </font></b>about how rude it is to be ghosted, we inevitably end up running into the ones that simply cannot take no for an answer. Inevitably, we then look back through that guy's profile and guess what? He's one of the ones whining about being ghosted. Gee, I wonder why he gets ghosted. Actually, I wonder how many restraining orders he has in his collection.

I truly don't know what these morons think they're going to accomplish, either. You've been nicely told no. You've been firmly told no. You've been told off. Why are you *still* sending messages asking us if we want to meet you for drinks? What in the world has to be wrong with someone that they think this is a winning tactic, that if he's enough of an asshole we'll go hey you know what, on second, no third, no fourth, no fifth thought... The creep grows on you, you know? Surely, he's the perfect guy, I bet he's all about respecting boundaries and stuff, what are we waiting for?

So, unfortunately, right this second I'm considering closing the door to single guys. Again.

And that sucks because we *are* actually looking for a local bi FWB that we click with and not just couples and women, so because of a few idiots, we're on the verge of being turned off to a whole category of what we're into as just not being worth the hassle with these people. They *must* have something wrong with them, wow that's some entitled, narcissistic, and dissociative stuff.

But that's why single guys get ghosted - because some of them can't take no for an answer no matter how many times or ways you tell them and eventually ruin it for everyone else.

We don't play with singles that are part of a couple. I mean, if we've met the couple, everyone plays together, maybe that ends up on the table down the line even if we never play alone ourselves. That's one thing.

But this one guy, geez... Tells us he's married and she's fine with it plays, too, it's just that they don't tell each other about it, aaaaaaaaaand we've heard a thousand variations of this story over the years, and it's a firm no, thanks anyway, but there are too many fish in the water to take the chance that we're enabling someone being cheated on, being part of the destruction of a marriage, etc. Some couples are fine with that, to each their own, but we're not.

Yes, we know open marriages exist, we aren't judging that at all, it's just that we aren't the open marriage police and we're not going to bother to investigate if what you're saying is true, and we're not going to accept a note from your wife or even Epstein's mom that says "biLY iS aLLoweD to pLay", and if you're handing us a weak story right off the bat like, "Is all cool so long as she doesn't know about it" or anything like, then - seriously - you must be kidding.

You, buddy, are why single guys get ghosted, and why they get blocked by couples, so keep doing you, and you're going to have a lot more whining to do in your profile about all the ghosting.

Months. We can now measure in months since this guy was told no. Then told no again. Then again. Unreal.

Nope. None for you, pal. Eat your heart out.


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