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Seriously, where is the clit? Why can’t I find it?  

Jake620127 62M
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7/15/2021 10:44 am
Seriously, where is the clit? Why can’t I find it?

Seriously, where is the clit? Why can’t I find it?
It sits at the top of where the two inner labia join. “Trace the seam of the lips toward your partner’s belly button to find the clit,” says Sloane.

You can also use your fingers to spread the lips apart to make the clit more visible.

Keep in mind that the part of the clitoris you can usually see and feel is only the tip of the iceberg. The clitoris itself extends a few inches further back into the body.

Should I really write the alphabet with my tongue?
Nope! According to Sloane, most need the exact same touch over and over again in order to<b> orgasm </font></b>— so licking the alphabet is the exact opposite of what you should be doing.

Should I lick it like an ice cream cone?
Actually, this isn’t a bad idea to start. “Start like you’re trying to lick all the ice cream in July,” says Sloane.

Think long, soft licks, as opposed to pokey, bird-like pecks.

What do I do if hair gets stuck in my mouth?
This is NBD. “Awkward sex things happen, and they’re totally not a big deal,” says sex educator Tara Struyk, co-founder of Kinkly, an online sexual wellness resource.

Pause, fish for the hair, and then get back in there.

How do I know if I’m doing OK?
Ask! It’s that easy. Some phrases to try out:

“Do you prefer this [demo A] or this [demo B]?”
“Can I keep going?”
“Does this pressure feel good?”
Struyk says their body should give you some clues, too. For example, are they moving toward you or away from you?

If your partner is pushing closer, chances are it feels good. If they’re pulling away or clenching their legs, the sensation may be too intense and you may need to back off.

How long should I do it for?
Sloane says that, on average, it takes vulva owners 20 to 45 minutes to climax.

Does that mean you’ll be licking their bean that long? If your partner consents and you’re having a good time, it might!

“Giving someone oral to the point where you’re no longer enjoying it yourself isn’t a great game plan,” Sloane adds. “It’s OK to move onto something else, and then come bac”

Should I insert my tongue into the vagina?
Only if they communicate that they’d enjoy that! Less tongue-thrust, more tongue-touch is usually best.

What if they’re menstruating?
Everyone has different comfort levels, and fluid-borne STIs can be spread through period blood, so check in with your partner.


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