Paranormal Activity - Part 2 I Heard from Casper  

bustinout20202 64F  
767 posts
10/22/2021 10:50 am
Paranormal Activity - Part 2 I Heard from Casper


Tis the Season!

It’s the things that go bump in the night.

They keep up. The last few nights I have gone to bed late [after 1 AM] with my body exhausted and ready to sleep but my mind ready to tackle quantum theories. Why is that??

Okay, I’m not that intellectual, but I do have issues with my mind not shutting off when it needs to.

So, I thought about him again. My FWB that dropped mid-sentence back in July; haven’t heard from him since. I let the matter drop too, but he was never far from my thoughts.

He wasn’t someone I was initially attracted to. However, he played his cards well with me: took his time, made me really feel desired, not just about the sex, not pressured. I told my friend, Gilf that he “bore acquaintance”.

I am not one for hysterics or drama. Did I react hysterically when I found out about the hubs? Okay, maybe a little , but in this game, not so much. Of course when I was ghosted, I wondered often about what might have happened to him, or us, or if I’d ever see him again, yet I've had enough to occupy my time and my thoughts lately.

But, still…I wondered…

So, I got the courage and the words to write him a note. Just to explain myself and my thoughts.

Cuz, that’s kinda what I do…I write. To express myself. To find my voice. Especially here.

So I did. I wrote a very nicely written note, I might add. No, I didn’t tell him to fuck off, but I did let him know he was an asshole by ghosting me…and in the nicest possible way too!

Told him I wouldn’t stalk him…what the fuck is the point in doing that??? In fact, I told him this would be my last communication with him. I just wanted to know what happened. I even gave him a multiple choice, complete with:

 None of the above
 All of the above

I wished him all the best and sent it off into the ether. I sent it, not expecting a return, rather to simply let my thoughts be heard. In other words, I did it for Me. To say what needed to be said without regard to what would happen.

To simply do it.

Two days later while checking my email, I saw he wrote back. I hugged my phone. I didn’t open the email right away. I wanted to make sure I was alone; to read it in its entirety without interruption.

What happened was that his wife found out. She had put a tracker on his car. She knew about the local hotel stays.

So, another nuclear bomb goes off in another living room. [cue “Another One Bites the Dust”]

I felt a real bittersweet sadness. Sadness for him; for her; for them; and sadness for us. Knowing that this abrupt ending is the end of us. I have fond memories of him and "us". I will definitely miss him.

They are working on their marriage. He used the phrase “we are careening along”. I know this word, “careening”. I relived my own story as I read his.

Which brings me to this. Unfortunately, of the men I communicate with, online or otherwise, [especially otherwise] 99.5% are married. Of that percentage, 99.7% do not tell or include their wives.

This is the reality of the site. While I have enjoyed several excursions via this place, I can count on one hand the single men I’ve met.

His message really hit home with me. I think at this time; I only want to play singles games.

I don’t want to be the cause of someone else’s anguish.


~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/22/2021 11:00 am

Tis the Season!

It’s the things that go bump in the night.

They keep me up. The last few nights I have gone to bed late [after 1 AM] with my body exhausted and ready to sleep but my mind ready to tackle quantum theories. Why is that??

Okay, I’m not that intellectual, but I do have issues with my mind not shutting off when it needs to.

So, I thought about him again. My FWB that dropped me mid-sentence back in July; haven’t heard from him since. I let the matter drop too, but he was never far from my thoughts.

He wasn’t someone I was initially attracted to. However, he played his cards well with me: took his time, made me really feel desired, not just about the sex, not pressured. I told my friend, Gilf that he “bore acquaintance”.

I am not one for hysterics or drama. Did I react hysterically when I found out about the hubs? Okay, maybe a little , but in this game, not so much. Of course when I was ghosted, I wondered often about what might have happened to him, or us, or if I’d ever see him again, yet I've had enough to occupy my time and my thoughts lately.

But, still…I wondered…

So, I got the courage and the words to write him a note. Just to explain myself and my thoughts.

Cuz, that’s kinda what I do…I write. To express myself. To find my voice. Especially here.

So I did. I wrote a very nicely written note, I might add. No, I didn’t tell him to fuck off, but I did let him know he was an asshole by ghosting me…and in the nicest possible way too!

Told him I wouldn’t stalk him…what the fuck is the point in doing that??? In fact, I told him this would be my last communication with him. I just wanted to know what happened. I even gave him a multiple choice, complete with:

 None of the above
 All of the above

I wished him all the best and sent it off into the ether. I sent it, not expecting a return, rather to simply let my thoughts be heard. In other words, I did it for Me. To say what needed to be said without regard to what would happen.

To simply do it.

Two days later while checking my email, I saw he wrote back. I hugged my phone. I didn’t open the email right away. I wanted to make sure I was alone; to read it in its entirety without interruption.

What happened was that his wife found out. She had put a tracker on his car. She knew about the local hotel stays.

So, another nuclear bomb goes off in another living room. [cue “Another One Bites the Dust”]

I felt a real bittersweet sadness. Sadness for him; for her; for them; and sadness for us. Knowing that this abrupt ending is the end of us. I have fond memories of him and "us". I will definitely miss him.

They are working on their marriage. He used the phrase “we are careening along”. I know this word, “careening”. I relived my own story as I read his.

Which brings me to this. Unfortunately, of the men I communicate with, online or otherwise, [especially otherwise] 99.5% are married. Of that percentage, 99.7% do not tell or include their wives.

This is the reality of the site. While I have enjoyed several excursions via this place, I can count on one hand the single men I’ve met.

His message really hit home with me. I think at this time; I only want to play singles games.

I don’t want to be the cause of someone else’s anguish.

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/22/2021 11:15 am

Here's Part 1 of Paranormal Activity if you want to read it. Paranormal Activity The Truth IsHERE

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


Owatalife 65M
1688 posts
10/22/2021 12:28 pm

The only thing that goes bump in the night here are the little field mice that once in awhile find their way into the kitchen. You can hear then trying to gnaw away on the little plastic traps set up near the sink where they more than likely find their way in. When you live near farms & are oot in the countryside not much can be done about the little critters trying to find food especially now with Ol Man Winter getting set to hit town soon. Not to keen on the rats who are prone to making the odd appearance here that's why the traps with poison are always left by the area that they get in & out by.


CleavageFan4U 64M  
68312 posts
10/22/2021 1:07 pm

Interesting story, but IMHO your conclusion is mistaken. You SHOULD be playing with fellow marrieds. That level playing field helps make things more equal and thus helps lessen potential issues.

And as much as it pains me to say this given my personal situation, fellow marrieds WITH kitchen passes would further levels things for you. But on that personal note of mine, I've long said I'm not attracted to stupid women and that includes the one I married. I take care not to rub her nose in the situation, but surely she knows! She just doesn't want to acknowledge it for then she would feel obligated to make changes.

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staci_19702 51T
2488 posts
10/22/2021 1:16 pm

Wow. I don’t know what to say. But sounds like you’re making a good decision.

Have a great day! 💋
Staci


Paulxx001 64M
21907 posts
10/22/2021 1:24 pm

Single guys exist on this site — I can call myself a member of THAT club. But to find one in your area, with availability and the right vibe to forge a connection — is always a challenge.
He (*these random married men*) are adults, and THEY know what they're getting into; don't feel responsible for THEIR weakness and greed.

Why don't you ask for a proof of divorce certificate — in a joking manner —before things get out of hand. If the guy stumbles and stutters and loses his breath — 'NEXT.' 😶

Just a thought... 😎❗❗


hardguy0051 69M
462 posts
10/22/2021 1:41 pm

When my mind won't shut down to let me fall asleep, I turn the radio to a comedy station out of Calgary (1060 AM). This distracts me from my thoughts and I fall asleep.

I know there are other stations with the same format, and some are I-Heart.

As far as a lost FWB goes, time heals all wounds or wounds all heels or something like that. This too shall pass.


crosstraining 68T  
7347 posts
10/22/2021 1:50 pm

I think that would be the best choice , keep it single , XOXO


positively4you 72F  
4514 posts
10/22/2021 6:37 pm

Single men are easier, just rare. I am too old to deal with pissed off wife and her lawyer.


G000dbuddy 34M  
1223 posts
10/23/2021 2:01 am



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MrWrong4RghtNow 55M  
2210 posts
10/23/2021 3:39 am

It's certainly easier to stay away from the married guys on here. It doesn't really matter if they get a hall pass or not. I will say that when I was married and on here, I made it very clear to everyone I loved my wife and I was never going to cheat on her. I was here to chat and that was that. I know, I know...What was I thinking? Being honest? That's crazy talk on here! lol
Funny thing is I'm divorced now and still not looking for randos. Just to be contrary, the only possible problem with a single guy is ending up with one who fancies himself a player. That's a different type of Russian roulette if you're hooking up in person. But I'm hoping you do find a nice guy who is honest and hot. Better to be positive, right?

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spunkycumfun 61M/66F
39337 posts
10/23/2021 3:57 am

With singles, at least it's a simpler game as there is no significant other though there may be others. But keeping it single is definitely keeping it simpler.


citizen4722 63M  
73491 posts
10/23/2021 1:32 pm

I'm stuck in single mode and it can be a pain at times, but at least it's only me that feels it.


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/24/2021 9:10 am

    Quoting Owatalife:
    The only thing that goes bump in the night here are the little field mice that once in awhile find their way into the kitchen. You can hear then trying to gnaw away on the little plastic traps set up near the sink where they more than likely find their way in. When you live near farms & are oot in the countryside not much can be done about the little critters trying to find food especially now with Ol Man Winter getting set to hit town soon. Not to keen on the rats who are prone to making the odd appearance here that's why the traps with poison are always left by the area that they get in & out by.
We had a run of mice this summer. Our cat would just watch them run around the kitchen and yawn. We had to take matters into our own hands, so we used live traps to catch them and then walked down around the corner a ways and let them go in the fields.

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/24/2021 9:16 am

    Quoting CleavageFan4U:
    Interesting story, but IMHO your conclusion is mistaken. You SHOULD be playing with fellow marrieds. That level playing field helps make things more equal and thus helps lessen potential issues.

    And as much as it pains me to say this given my personal situation, fellow marrieds WITH kitchen passes would further levels things for you. But on that personal note of mine, I've long said I'm not attracted to stupid women and that includes the one I married. I take care not to rub her nose in the situation, but surely she knows! She just doesn't want to acknowledge it for then she would feel obligated to make changes.

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Well Cleave, I always love hearing your humble opinion. And I'll admit, ya got a point there. It just hit me hard when I read his message, and since I am a no drama mama, I don't want a crazed woman to slash my tires on my Lil Red Collette!
Thanks for your feedback!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/24/2021 9:19 am

    Quoting staci_19702:
    Wow. I don’t know what to say. But sounds like you’re making a good decision.
Thanks Staci.
I'll probably change my mind...a woman's prerogative, 'n all! Except my current playmates ARE married....

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/24/2021 9:21 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Single guys exist on this site — I can call myself a member of THAT club. But to find one in your area, with availability and the right vibe to forge a connection — is always a challenge.
    He (*these random married men*) are adults, and THEY know what they're getting into; don't feel responsible for THEIR weakness and greed.

    Why don't you ask for a proof of divorce certificate — in a joking manner —before things get out of hand. If the guy stumbles and stutters and loses his breath — 'NEXT.' 😶

    Just a thought... 😎❗❗
Yeah, I think I narrowed the playing field for a while!
Certificate of divorce, right along with their Vax card, lol!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/24/2021 9:23 am

    Quoting hardguy0051:
    When my mind won't shut down to let me fall asleep, I turn the radio to a comedy station out of Calgary (1060 AM). This distracts me from my thoughts and I fall asleep.

    I know there are other stations with the same format, and some are I-Heart.

    As far as a lost FWB goes, time heals all wounds or wounds all heels or something like that. This too shall pass.
Thank you! I don't have access to a radio at night, but I can fall asleep easily watching the telly! thanks for stopping by!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/24/2021 9:24 am

    Quoting crosstraining:
    I think that would be the best choice , keep it single , XOXO
Yeah, I think so
for now, anyway
well, going forward...

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/24/2021 9:25 am

    Quoting positively4you:
    Single men are easier, just rare. I am too old to deal with pissed off wife and her lawyer.
Gasp! Has that ever happened to you? Lawyer too?

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
10/24/2021 9:26 am

...just for now
Things change!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


positively4you 72F  
4514 posts
10/24/2021 12:55 pm

Never happened to me. There was a case in N.C., the other woman was sued in the divorce settlement. Not sure how it ended for her.


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