Is it an IM problem, or a people problem?  

undercover_bi469 55M
21 posts
1/8/2020 9:37 am
Is it an IM problem, or a people problem?


Just reading some blogs today and I get an alert that someone flirted with me. I check it, it's a gold member that is on IM. So I spend the 15 points and say, "Thanks for the flirt, how's it going today?". I wait minutes, no response. Is IM not working or the person that sent the flirt not answering? And if they are not answering, why send a flirt in the first place? Crap like this is why I will not TSdates.com $35. a month!

undercover_bi469 55M
598 posts
1/8/2020 9:39 am

Fell free to give your two cents worth.


undercover_bi469 55M
598 posts
1/8/2020 9:40 am

typo, sorry, Feel free


lLbow2459 61M
127 posts
1/8/2020 9:57 am

Ditto.......Has happened more times to me than I can count!


fancy_legs 48F  
23 posts
1/8/2020 10:00 am

Don't sweat it, most of the time it is the IM. Or the person who may have flirted with you are using the mobile app. In which the IM doesn't work well on the app so, they can't reply to it. People flirt for many reasons on here.
Hope your experiences get better. TSdates.com has lots to offer. Talk to people free in the chat rooms. People are friendly if you just say hello.

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Harlyman54321 47M
50 posts
1/8/2020 10:00 am

If your a standard member you can't talk on im. That sucks.


BiggLala 48F  
28516 posts
1/8/2020 10:18 am

Unless I misunderstood you, I think your reasoning for not paying, "Crap like this is why I will not pay TSdates.com $35. a month," is flawed in the context of what you said. If you paid for a membership, you wouldn't have to worry about losing points. Yes, you *might* still experience the frustration of people not responding, but everyone experiences that...regardless of membership level.

What I don't understand is why would you spend the fifteen points to message someone just because they flirted with you. I also wonder if you were already logged into IM. If you were, wouldn't they have messaged you first to demonstrate genuine interest?

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MyBaffies 50M
4304 posts
1/8/2020 10:18 am

I've found no evidence the IM works for all of the people all of the time. I've read some people have no issues with it (they are obviously all gold members who are allowed to use it), and others who are unable to get it to work at all.

Make of that what you will.

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sensualmaninmn 59M  
519 posts
1/8/2020 10:27 am

Another reason is that women get inundated with IMs-- 15 or more at a time. Impossible to keep up.


BiggLala 48F  
28516 posts
1/8/2020 10:33 am

    Quoting MyBaffies:
    I've found no evidence the IM works for all of the people all of the time. I've read some people have no issues with it (they are obviously all gold members who are allowed to use it), and others who are unable to get it to work at all.

    Make of that what you will.
they are obviously all gold members who are allowed to use it
-I don't know if you're being sarcastic, but this is false. I don't think it wise to perpetuate this 'gold vs. standards' myth. Gold members have challenges with the site features as well.

When I used to frequent IM after I first joined, I always experienced problems with IM when on my mobile phone. I never had problems when I used IM on my laptop computer. Thus...I quit using my mobile phone and solely used my laptop.

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lookn4hrnyfun 49M  
107 posts
1/8/2020 10:43 am

The IM sucks. I stay logged in to it while I am on line. Half the time if I get a message and reply it never shows delivered. If I try to start a conversation probably less than 10% of the folks respond. It is marginal at best but sometimes it will work!


2Saltie2 26F

1/8/2020 10:47 am

    Quoting Harlyman54321:
    If your a standard member you can't talk on im. That sucks.
Sucks how? This site is a business. Give away enough free stuff so enough people do not pay is good business sense?

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703papi 43M
26 posts
1/8/2020 11:02 am

couldn't agree with this post any more. TSdates.com should only take points from you if the other person actually responds. We have no way of knowing if they are actually getting it or if they just choose not to respond.


positively4you 70F  
3949 posts
1/8/2020 2:59 pm

Some flirts and views are site generated and not from the person. I trust none of them.


undercover_bi469 55M
598 posts
1/8/2020 8:04 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    Unless I misunderstood you, I think your reasoning for not paying, "Crap like this is why I will not pay TSdates.com $35. a month," is flawed in the context of what you said. If you paid for a membership, you wouldn't have to worry about losing points. Yes, you *might* still experience the frustration of people not responding, but everyone experiences that...regardless of membership level.

    What I don't understand is why would you spend the fifteen points to message someone just because they flirted with you. I also wonder if you were already logged into IM. If you were, wouldn't they have messaged you first to demonstrate genuine interest?
When I said "crap like this" I was referring to IM not working. Also things like the site not showing "date of last visit" in a persons profile, not deleting profiles that haven't been active for 6 months or more, Not letting standards answer a message from a gold when the gold makes first contact. These are things that the site did do years ago.


MyBaffies 50M
4304 posts
1/9/2020 5:26 am

    Quoting BiggLala:
    they are obviously all gold members who are allowed to use it
    -I don't know if you're being sarcastic, but this is false. I don't think it wise to perpetuate this 'gold vs. standards' myth. Gold members have challenges with the site features as well.

    When I used to frequent IM after I first joined, I always experienced problems with IM when on my mobile phone. I never had problems when I used IM on my laptop computer. Thus...I quit using my mobile phone and solely used my laptop.
"I've found no evidence the IM works for all of the people all of the time."

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